Jake's Pix and Thoughts
This is a unique page devoted to one visitor we will call "Jake." He was couragous enough to send not only his photos but some of his deepest thoughts about his penis size. No matter what your size, we think you will benefit from reading this detailed narrative - and seeing the variety of pictures later on the page. Be sure to read and scroll all the way to the end of this page (it's long) and see what happened after he sent in his pictures.
age 57, height 5 ft. 7 in., weight 175, flaccid length 1.5 in., erect length 3.75 in.
I am around 4 inches erect, and have always been very obsessed about it. I remembered that a woman told me about a book for people who have Anorexia Nervosa (The dieting sickness). It was called "It". I haven't seen it, but she described it to me. It was a picture book. On each page it had a picture of the woman with a little monster sitting on her shoulder. She said: "It is time to eat, but It tells me I'm fat." Etc. She said, you usually think that these thoughts are your own, and it is hard to fight them. But if you realize that the thoughts are coming from an it, an outside source then you can fight them. That is like me! I have an "it" on my shoulder. That tells me lies about myself, and is trying to destroy me. I am going to choose to fight this "it".
During the day, I was thinking, Why dont the books and the internet show guys with small penises? Why do they all look like they are 7 or 8 inches? When boys (and men) look at the books, and find they are considerably smaller than normal/average they begin to doubt themselves. I was angry at the books and the internet, it was THEIR fault. Why were we left alone, with no one to say, here I am, there a plenty like you? Youll survive. To help us put it all in perspective
Why dont the books and the internet show guys with small penises?. Because the guys with small penises are all sitting in the corner staring at their small dicks, and feeling powerless and sorry for themselves! Thats why! They are so busy trying to make sure that no looks at them, and no one laughs at them, that they can not be a help to anyone. It would be better that other people suffer, than that they go through the pain of being laughed at even for a moment. They are paralysed by fear that someone will laugh at them. And so they leave all the young boys and men who are below average stranded, to survive as best as they can by themselves, to feel like they are the only ones on the planet with a small penis.
I can hide in the corner my whole life, and it wont make it any bigger, and it wont make the pain go away. In fact it will probably make the pain worse! If I have to bear this burden of this little penis, then I am going to make it count, I am going to make it redemptive.
Joni Tada-Ericksen (broken neck, and in a wheel chair) writes books that helps millions of people who are suffering. Steve Reeves (Superman) also in a wheel chair helps handicapped people. Sitting in the corner trying to protect myself is not a worthy life. No body makes movies about lives like that! Frodo didnt sit in a corner, he did something for other people, it wasnt easy, but it was important. Enough! I am finished, feeling sorry for myself. I am finished listening to the it on my shoulder whispering lies in my ear. (the obsession, my demon, whatever you want to call it).
Again from the Twin Towers, the King of Rohan (Théodin maybe?) has an advisor named Worm tongue who fills his mind with self doubts, makes him old and powerless. When Worm Tongue is cast aside, the king becomes, young, strong and brave again. Ive got my own Worm Tongue, and I am through listening to him. I am going to email erectionphotos, and tell them what a great site they have. And it is great to have people in their gallery whose penis are on the smaller side, because it is really frightening if everyone they see in all the books and in the galleries is much bigger than you are. My penis is 3 ¾ inches long, and I am willing to send photos of myself. So maybe some 8 incher looks at my 3 ½ inch penis and laughs. So what! I think most normal and well endowed men have a lot better things to do than sit around looking at guys with small penises (like they might look at girls!), and they wouldnt have an obsession about size like we do, so it wouldnt be such an issue for them. Second, if that is all that a person has to do in life then I feel sorry for Him.
I cant believe how much better I feel since I decided this. It is like a black cloud is lifted. I didnt realize how much this was poisoning my life. I dont think it really matters whether they put my pictures in their gallery or not. What maters is that I decided not to listen any more, and that I am willing to post the picture. I am not afraid. I think that is what broke its power. I am sure it will try to come back again, Ill be somewhere and see someone will whip out a big penis. If I have lived a life-time with this obsession, I cant expect it to be over instantly. But Martin Luther once said you cant stop the birds from flying over your head, but you dont have to let them build a nest in your hair. So maybe I will have moments when I think that way again, but I have broken its power once, I can do it again. Im not going back to the corner. I hope what I have written makes sense to you. I know it is pretty emotional.
Okay, so the same thing applies to penis size. (and my testicles which you have so helpfully pointed out are not normal size). There is no point in complaining that others have bigger penises and testicles (or different shaped glanses (pl?) than I do. So I dont have an Ace of spades (8 inches), so I dont even have a King, or a Queen, not even a Jack. I have other Aces up my sleeve. The rule in Bridge is that you lead with your strong suit, but I have been playing life wrong, I have been leading with my weak suit. I have been focusing on my short suit for the last 45 years. I have some wonderful long suits but somehow I have let this one short suit paralyse me.
So I have a short suit, everybody does. No one can have all long suits. I have a job I love, I have a wife and 6 great children, I am a friendly person with a lots of friends, I am respected, I have more than enough money to live. My penis size (testicle and glans) is irrelevant. Men and women can see my long and short suits, and decide for themselves whether to like me or not. Sure if I ever went into a relationship with another woman I would warn her that I am small before we had sex, that way if it was incredibly important to her she could back out. But if she did back out, I would be disappointed in myself that I had picked such a shallow person. I refuse to obsess about it any more. I know that I will see big people, and I will be tempted to start obsessing again. But I am going to resist the temptation as best as I can, and if I fall, Ill pick myself up afterwards.
It is something I cannot change by obsessing, any more than I could by measuring. I quit measuring, I can quit obsessing. There are many people in the world who would gladly change places with me, thats it! I refuse to keep focusing on my the size of my penis Of course I havent been tested myself yet, whether I am really ready to live in this or not. I know for sure I am ready to WANT to live here. I am tired of living in this self-made prison, limiting myself my short suit.
When things go wrong in my life (wife and I not getting on, no sex, failure
at work etc) then I have an almost overwhelming desire to have a bigger penis.
I dream it would fix everything, my wife would desire me, all men who admire
me. It sounds silly now, but when feeling like that it is very hard to think
What are my options, and why don't I take them?
The one I dream about most is an operation. It promises SO much, an extra inch or two! Incredible. (The Michael Jackson syndrome!)
But, all operations have side affects.
Example 1. My wife had a "successful" back operation. According to the X-ray all the bones are in place, but there is scar tissue and the nerves are pinched in the scar tissue and she is in constant pain.
Example 2. I had a "successful" vasectomy. But I now have a cyst on my right testicles, the right testicle has atrophied, and I get a testosterone injection every three weeks.
I tell my self, "I have a working mode penis." Working is better than looks. I could end up with cut nerves, or painful erections due to scar tissue. Besides I doubt there could be 2 inches of penis hidden in my body. (Maybe that would be true for some who has six inches.) I'd probably only gain 1/2 inch, and the risk is too high. So I won't let anyone with a knife near my penis. If it ain't broke, don't fix it! So I resist the temptation.
2. Jelqing (milking) pulling and vacuum pumps.
I tried jelqing and pulling for two weeks. But I ended up with a variclous vein just above the sculus (neck) of the penis, it burned. I stopped and it went away after a few days. Maybe smaller penises have thinner tissues and are more prone to damage? Erections are amazingly complex things, I don't want to do anything that wrecks the system. A working model is better than a messed up penis.
3. All I do now is trim the pubic hair (I cut about 3/4 off). At least what I have isn't hidden by the hair.
So when things go wrong, it is better to focus on the real problem instead of dreaming that a bigger penis would fix the problem. Everyone wants to be loved for who they are, not what's between their legs. Strange as it may seem to those of us less well endowed, even most of those with above average penises really want to be loved for who their are, and not their large appendages. If you were loved for your penis size or breast size, you would be pretty insecure, because there is always someone bigger, or smaller, thinner, or fatter. We all want someone who says "I love you, now we'll work out the best way to express our love sexually with whatever equipment you have." The extremes, large or small all present challenges. There are some positions smaller people can't use (rear entry, spoons etc, and condoms may be a problem), and there are positions larger people can't use (deep penetration positions, and condoms may be a problem). And of course our partners want the same from us. I love you, not your breast size. I guess that is finally the long and the short of it. I think this is the real truth, it is just are to remember when I see someone who is really big.
After sending the photos:
1. I have thought often about the pictures, and check my emails with anticipation
and a bit of anxiety, knowing that one day I will receive an email saying
that they are posted on the internet. ( I have even had the odd fearful thought,
"suppose Joseph isn't trustworthy.")
2. What has really amazed me, is that since I have taken those photos I have never thought about being under-endowed. Now I must tell you that since I was 13 there has never been a day in my life that I did not think about being below average (actually in much more destructive terms than that). But I have not thought about it even once since I took the photos. I think this must be something that happened because of the photos, perhaps it is like a person with a phobia patting a snake, or holding a spider?
3. Also there is someone at my work who has been a bully for the last 6-7 years. I am actually his supervisor, but I have never been able to deal with him. Last week I took my chairman and challenged him about how he was hurting those he was supposed to be leading. And then I went alone to meet with him and 6 of his supporters. And I told him I would write a new job description for him that would clearly show how he was to treat people. He resigned. Now I can't say for sure that this was a result of taking the pictures, but this has happened before, and I have backed down every time over the last 6-7 years. It sure seems like something has changed. -Jake
After seeing the photos posted:
The pictures look normal, that is quite amazing. I have always felt that
whenever someone else saw my penis, some sort of siren went off, like when
you leave a department store without paying for the item, or lights flashed.
Every head would turn to look. And then when they looked in my direction somehow,
like in a cartoon, their eyes would zoom in and out on the size of my penis
in shock. They didn't mean to do this, I was just so small that they couldn't
help themselves. I guess I never analysed how unrealistic this feeling was,
the feeling just overwhelmed me. I tried to be brave and not turn away or
hide and ignore the feeling as much as I could. When my pictures were posted
on this page, I was shocked to see myself from the outside. No sirens blew,
no lights flashed, the penis didn't zoom in and out of close up view. I just
saw a pretty boring body; hairy, pot belly, and small penis. But I didn't
see the penis more than any other part of the body, it was just part of a
body. I look just like plenty of other guys. I've seen lots of guys who look
just like I do in change rooms. There's no drama, there's nothing to be afraid
of. It has just all been my own private hell, of my own creating! Okay, so
I am not as big as a lot of guys, but it is not newsworthy, any more than
small hands, feet or being short. Yes, Joseph, now I know that I am normal.
But something even more important than that has happened, I don't even know
if there are words to describe the change. I have just walked out of a private
hell. I doubt that you can understand how writing, and seeing the photos has
helped me. The picture I had on the inside was totally out of touch with the
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